Snoring is obnoxious. Physical health detriments aside, snoring can take a serious toll on your mental health as well. And when you share a bed with someone else, snoring can have serious consequences for the long-term health of your relationship. Since snoring is more common in men than in women, the adage “Happy wife, happy life” really does apply here. But plenty of women suffer from snoring problems as well. One of the best reasons to stop snoring is simply to make your partner happy.
Often times, the person with the snoring problem may not even be aware that he has a problem. When that person’s partner informs him of the sounds of heavy industrial machinery that are coming from his mouth every night, there is likely to be some resentment on the part of the snorer. Even after a man is made aware of his snoring problems, he may be unwilling to take any actions to address them, since doing so usually requires seeing a doctor, purchasing special anti-snoring devices, and/or changing his sleeping habits. But doing these things is still preferable to losing someone in your life that you care about, because when it comes to the question of just how much of an effect snoring can have on a relationship, the answer is: quite a lot, actually.
According to data from the National Sleep Foundation, 39 percent of American adults get fewer than the recommended seven hours of sleep each night, and more than 37 percent of them get so little sleep that their sleepiness interferes with their daily activities. Long term sleep loss can wreak havoc on your body, causing impaired cognitive ability – including problems with learning and memory – as well as reduced motor skills, morning headaches, irritability, burnout, and depression. Snoring causes sleep loss for both the snorer and the person who has to lie awake all night listening to it.
All of these physical and mental issues have a tendency to compound and snowball, leading to conflicts in the bedroom that a pair of earplugs can’t solve. Snoring leads to arguments and resentments, which lead to worse sex lives and, eventually, may even lead to the couple sleeping in separate rooms. Sleeping in the same bed is an important factor in most relationships, because it provides intimacy and an opportunity for busy couples to catch up on their days, reflect, and make plans for the next day.
Often times, the decision to sleep in separate rooms is made passively, rather than discussed overtly. The partner who has to deal with the snoring will tend to migrate to another room after being woken up or failing to fall asleep, and over time this develops into a pattern that neither person wants to acknowledge. Left unchecked, the problems caused by snoring can lead an otherwise happily married couple into the kind of rocky territory that can only be navigated with the aid of a relationship counselor.
Fortunately, there are many treatment options available for persistent snoring. The snorer can seek relief from snoring through noninvasive medical procedures, anti-snoring devices like the ZQuiet and SnoreRx anti-snoring mouthpieces, and a variety of anti-snoring sprays and strips. A doctor or sleep clinic can provide information about all of these options. For the other partner, there are beeswax earplugs and white noise machines. Ultimately, snoring is one of those “mountains out of molehills” problems. There are simple solutions for it, but first both partners in a relationship need to admit that it’s a problem and agree on the best way to solve it.